Before getting dressed, set an intention. What do you want your look to convey? Who are you underneath all the layers, and is that being shown? It's not a simple thing to dress and style yourself authentically, but a great place to start is being aware of how much your inner-self and outer-style are aligned. You know that feeling when you get ready and feel like a ball of light, oozing confidence? It's not because of the latest designer style, it's because you are accurately representing who you are.
Today, I will do my best to notice and be intentional with how I am expressing myself through my personal style.
Personal style isn't limited to what we wear or how we decorate, it's an expression of who we truly are. And whether or not it's intentional, we're all participating. So take a minute and ask yourself, "what does my personal style say about me? Does my style represent who I am? Do I even know my style?"
And remember, style isn't "boho" or "mod," it's often a mish-mash of originality and inspiration. It's unique to you, so don't worry if putting words to it is hard, it should be. We are complex creatures and self-expression isn't about fitting into a box or category, it's about being vulnerable, creative, and honest. Now ask yourself, "What small and simple changes can I make to align my outer image with my inner."
No matter what your style, authenticity always looks the best.
Each day this week, take a break from screens; no news, no social media, no text messages. Be brave and just leave it in another room. Anywhere from 30 minutes to hours works great. Then follow the daily challenge:
Monday: Connect with somebody you care about by listening. Don't tell your side, don't try to fix it, just listen.
Tuesday: Go outside, find a comfy place to sit, and just breathe. Let your mind wander.
Wednesday: Grab paper, a pen, and just let your thoughts flow. Don't think, just write/draw/doodle/etc.
Thursday: Do something that makes you feel vulnerable. This is different for everyone. For me, It's dancing.
Friday: Learn something new...without the internet. Dust off that knitting/history/self-help book and go to town.
Saturday: Interact with nature. Sit under a tree, make a leaf mural with your kids, go kayaking, don't just be near it, be in it.
Sunday: Rest. Not because some divine being told you to, but because you deserve it. Sleep in, read poetry, daydream, do nothing, whatever it takes to give your brain and body a break.
Mindfulness is like any other skill; it takes practice. So this week, practice pausing and being present in the moment. A trick I use is running through my five senses. You only need about 2 minutes. Start by closing your eyes. Take a deep breath, and notice how the air around you smells. Does it give you a sense of nostalgia? of disgust?
Then move to your hearing and try to notice the small sounds like somebody walking, a bird chirping. Do you have any tastes you can distinguish? What is your body feeling right now? Are your shoulders tensed up? Is your back hurting? Then lastly, open your eyes, and take in your surroundings.
It's important to remember that there's nothing to accomplish here. This activity is practicing being present in the moment and noticing your surroundings and how they make you feel. These small moments might feel awkward at first, but the more you practice, the more peace you'll be able to find throughout the day.
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Today I will find clarity by being honest with myself and curious about my intentions.
Clarity cannot exist without transparency, so I will ask for transparency from the businesses I support, the leaders I follow, the people I care about, and most of all, from myself. This will help me be more self-aware and not project my pain onto others.
What kind of Earth do you think future generations deserve? What are the things you hope they would get to experience? They don't have to be grade excursions, but as simple as spending a day at the beach. Then think of something, big or small, that you can do today that will contribute to that future. It could be picking up a piece of trash, registering to vote, or thanking a local business for their sustainability efforts. Now go do it.
When you feel stressed, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Picture the source of your stress encased in a white fluffy cloud. As it enters your line of vision, accept the feelings you have, even if you don't fully understand them.
Don't ruminate, don't try to solve anything, just acknowledge your emotions, and give yourself permission to feel deeply. By accepting your emotions, you give yourself the power to let them pass, just as a cloud would. Now visualize the cloud slowly exiting your line of vision along with the now validated feelings.